Is it just me or am I the only one who falls in love with someone as soon as they show a slight interest in wanting to be my husband?
— thealliemarz (@alliemarston) April 8, 2017
It’s probably just me. It’s really hard to live your life wearing your heart on your sleeve. Nowadays with all of the available dating platforms, you are bound to run into a catfish sooner or later.
I recently just had an experience that was eye-opening. I’m here to share my story with you all so you don’t ever do the same thing.
We are going to go over exactly how to spot a catfish, to prevent you from either getting hurt emotionally, physically, and/or financially. Class is in session.
I was swiping away minding my own business one morning where I matched with this beautiful man named Ryan on Hinge. His pictures were everything I was looking for in someone. He was tall, handsome, and had dark features. As soon as we matched he messaged me right away. “I have been waiting for this match to come in”. I was so excited, this guy was into me already. Later that morning he called me on my cell phone and we talked for about three hours just getting to know each other. I was like wow, this guy is really interested in me. He was asking me what my favorite color was, my favorite movie, siblings, my birthday. All things that should have absolutely have been a red flag. I was so caught up in how much he wanted to know about me I was already planning the wedding in my head.
Later that day, all of the questions of him getting to know me turned into sexual questions. My fantasies, what turns me on, an embarrassing sex moment, and so on and so forth. These questions eventually lead to what became phone sex. He has such a hot voice, I didn’t think anything of it. I was like our sexual chemistry is going to be so wild once we see each other.
He sent me selfies every morning, and every night. He came on so strong right away. (Boom, another red flag).
He kept saying things like sorry boys she’s off the market now…You are my girl…I hadn’t even met the guy yet but okay I was on board. Immediately this was another red flag. My girlfriends were all supportive like wow okay he likes you just be careful. Little did I know later that day I was going to be catfished.
We made plans to have dinner on Friday night. 545PM rolls around and he calls me to tell me he’s going to get ready and come get me. I dropped my shift that night so I could get ready all day to see this guy. 715PM rolls around and nothing. I call his phone
I was absolutely flabbergasted. What did I do wrong? Was it something I said earlier in the day? Was it the outfit I was wearing and sent him a picture of? I couldn’t wrap my mind around it. Only for me to find out later that evening that I was catfished.
Here is the list of red flags that came from this experience.
1) They come on very strong and you haven’t even met
2) They refuse to facetime with you (Because they are probably a 50-year-old obese man in his mom’s basement)
3) They ask you so many questions to get to “know you” (They are trying to hack your passwords)
4) The have absolutely no social media under the name they have given you
5) THEY SEEM TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE
6) They have very detailed stories of who they are or what they are about
Conclusion: Always make sure you Facetime this person before you start getting to know them in-depth. If they refuse to facetime you, block them before they block you.
If you guys want to hear more about my horrifying catfish story, make sure you check out the FUKEDUP Podcast right here. Co-hosted by yours truly and my best friend Nicole.