Imagine your best friend calls you. She’s hysterical. You try to calm her down but then she tells you why she is so distraught. Your first instinct is to call the police to press charges.
Her husband, who has a history of violence, defecated on her bed, sliced off her finger after throwing a bottle at her, and admitted in more than one recording that he has struck her repeatedly.
“He’s a monster,” you would probably say. And you’d be right.
All of these acts of violence have been committed by Amber Heard when she was married to Johnny Depp, and many in the media seem too timid to cover the story with the same vigor as they would if Depp had committed these heinous acts.
Listen, I’m not just some men’s rights activist clamouring for a chance to trash Amber Heard. I’ve been in Depp’s shoes before, minus the shit in the bed (seriously, WTF?). I know what it is like to be verbally, emotionally, and physically abused by a female partner. I know what it is like to have that partner lie to friends as she goes out of her way to frame my reaction to her abuse as the real example of abuse.
And I know what it is like to have friends and family roll their eyes as I attempt to explain what I went through.
I listened to those recordings where Heard cackles as she dares Depp to try and convince anyone on this planet that a man was abused by a woman. Heard took the #metoo movement, bent it over the counter and forced a fist up its ass because like many of us, she thought the movement was about abusing men rather than uplifting women. Her egregious disregard for the importance of the movement makes her an ambassador inside the #metoo arena on the same level as Chris Brown.
This is where the mainstream media should have been ready to stand up for the principles of protecting victims, but instead they found a way to water down Heard’s actions and even frame the story as a tale of mutual abuse, despite there being no evidence that Depp ever abused Heard. Why? Because of their dreaded fear of optics.
Unable to defend the domestic violence of Amber Heard, Vice decides that rather than betray the church of #metoo, they will spotlight Johnny Depp's addictions.
This is what it looks like when an outlet is all out of ideas & can't fathom a piece that makes a female look abusive. https://t.co/IFAWkRfCx7
— James DiFiore (@jamesdifiore) April 22, 2022
But if you review Heard’s tweets and statements in her post-relationship period what you will find is a woman on a stage, using her own abuse as a springboard to accuse Depp of horrendous things, treating the rest of us like idiots because most of us are trained to believe every single woman any time they launch an allegation. Yes, I know, it stains the movement as a whole, but that movement set itself up to be soiled the second it was deemed to be infallible.
Bc Elaine the drain went low- less than 5% of psychologists hold board certification.
Dr. Curry is specially trained in PTSD, with the US Military.
Let's not try to tear accomplished women down with baseless innuendo, to try to give credit to one who lies and abuses. pic.twitter.com/K8IGZiTyho
— Femme (@FemCondition) April 26, 2022
I’ve been hit with blunt objects while cooking at a stove by a female partner. I’ve been ridiculed and threatened and gaslit to the point of an actual nervous breakdown. I don’t know how to convey the gravity of how it made me feel as a person, as a man. Even typing this piece makes my mind wander to a place where I can almost hear the snickering from #metoo absolutists who roll their eyes when men talk about this shit.
And I have one message for them – fuck you.
Partner abuse isn’t about gender, even if one gender is more guilty statistically. If you know what it is like to apologize after being ridiculed, hit, or threatened to have your kids taken away from you hundreds of times, then we can be allies. If you have experienced those things and scoff at the idea that men can identify with you, then perhaps one of your symptoms of being an abused person is your lack of depth, a requirement if you wish to be an actual ally alongside people who are abused by horrific life partners.
Johnny Depp is a victim, let’s not victimize him some more by pretending he isn’t, or that it doesn’t matter.